Develop a Leadership Mindset to Get Noticed & Move Up

February 14, 2021
Mary-Ellen Hynd | Develop a Leadership Mindset to Get Noticed and Move Up Blog Post

Leading the Coaching to Develop a Leadership Mindset webinar series for the IABC Academy, I’ve heard first-hand about the challenges faced in the workplace and on the path to career advancement and sustainable leadership.

Here are some of the most common concerns and requests:

  • to develop confidence, emotional intelligence and a leader-centric mindset
  • to become “less reactive” and able to communicate my position / solutions without “shutting down”
  • tips and tools to handle difficult conversations and manage conflict
  • coaching / mentoring tips for team growth and development
  • more responsibility, rewarding projects and joy

What follows are five of my best “tried and true” tips to develop a leadership mindset to get noticed and move up.

1. Leading is also about following

A leader is someone who others follow willingly. People want to be in a relationship with you. It is not dependent on power or position.

A great question for aspiring and intentional leaders to ask is “Why do others willingly follow me?” Look within yourself for the answer. You may want to ask others as well to see what they say.

Herein lies clues to your strength of character and the values you should pay attention to and uphold to naturally shine as a leader.

Often the responsibility of a leader is to get their people from where they are to where they haven’t been. This is a lot easier if people follow willingly.

ASK: Why do others willingly follow me?

2. Leaders are relational

Effective leaders are adept at managing three relationships: relationship with self, relationship with others and relationship with the system(s) within which they live and operate.

Leadership scholar Warren Bennis famously said “Becoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself. It is precisely that simple and it is also that difficult.”

The first step to develop a leadership mindset is self-awareness. It’s important to understand yourself before you can lead others. The best way to do this is to get a clear sense of your values.

Values are our most fulfilling form of expressing and relating and point us to what it means to be true to oneself. When we are living a life that is aligned with our values, there is a sense of fulfillment and a grounding rightness during tough times.

Personal values discovery and clarity is a starting point in all my coaching relationships. Clients often ask if it is ok to have different values at work than at home. The answer is no! Your values are the same for all areas of your life and serve as a compass for communication and decision making.

ASK: How well do I know myself?

3. Leading is different than managing

To develop as a leader, it is important to understand the difference between managing and leading. It is surprising how many people don’t know the difference. One of my clients wisely laminated this chart and posted it in his office.



Get a sense of your natural orientation on the Leading Versus Managing chart. Is it managing or leading? Of course, leading and managing responsibilities are not mutually exclusive but you get the idea.

To evolve and get noticed as a leader, make a conscious choice to embody and demonstrate a leader-like orientation every chance you get. You will be building your leadership muscle and others will notice too.

ASK: Am I managing or leading?

4. Learn to really listen

Effective leaders are skilled at not only asking powerful, open-ended questions that start with “what” and “how”, but also active listening to retain what has been shared and doing so in a way that others feel heard.

A fun way to practice active listening is to ask an open-ended question and listen intently to what the person says. Then make a conscious choice to ask an open ended follow up question based on their reply and then one more based on that reply. Only at this point, turn the conversation back to you. Often at this stage the conversation naturally turns anyways.

Do you notice a natural inclination to turn the conversation back to you? This is very common and requires self-awareness and discipline to change. Think of it as listening instead of reloading.

While being respected for your knowledge and expertise is important, as a leader it is just as important to be able to engage others through active listening. The easiest way to do this is by asking powerful questions. It has been helpful for some of my clients to post the words WAIT, which secretly stands for Why am I talking?

ASK: Am I listening or reloading?

5. Courageous authenticity builds confidence

Courageous authenticity is exemplified through a willingness to take a tough stand, to address the “undiscussables” or elephant in the room, and to openly deal with relationship problems.

Developing the capability to relate to others in an authentic, courageous and high-integrity manner can be uncomfortable at first. It is easier if it comes from a values-based, curious place.

Often clients are fearful to step out of their comfort zone and speak up, but once they try it and experience the impact (personally and from others), it becomes much easier and they even seek out opportunities to practice this behaviour.

You know those situations when no-one is talking, and everyone is wishing that someone would address the real issue. Using good judgement of course, don’t be afraid to address what isn’t being said. When done in a tactful and thoughtful way, others will appreciate and notice you for leading the way.

ASK: How can I practice courageous authenticity?

Leadership is a muscle that can be developed. While self-awareness is a powerful first step in leadership development, I encourage you to be open and receptive to feedback from others.

Is the way you see yourself consistent with the way others see you? I’m a fan of The Leadership Circle Profile™, a highly insightful all in one self / 360 assessment tool to benchmark and assess creative competencies versus reactive tendencies.

In closing, here are two powerful questions for aspiring leaders. How do I get in my own way – would I follow me? AND How will I model the courage I want from those around me?

Please do not hesitate to get in touch if you have any comments or questions about developing a leadership mindset. Wishing you continued success on your leadership journey.

A version of this article was previously published June 2018 in the International Association of Business Communicators (IABC) Communication World Magazine.

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Hi I’m Mary-Ellen

ICF Accredited global coach & organizational strategist known for unlocking potential & moving ideas to meaningful action through leadership, sustainability & communication. It’s my job to make you shine!


  1. Jennifer Arnott

    Thanks for this Mary-Ellen. These tips on developing a leadership mindset to get noticed and move up align with what I’ve observed and with my own personal experience. I especially liked your thoughts about the need for leaders to be self-aware, including having clarity on our own values. Self-awareness, and self-management are critical.

    • Mary-Ellen Hynd

      I’m so glad you found this relatable Jennifer. Getting to know, understand and manage yourself is the first step as a leader.

  2. Sylvia Link

    Mary-Ellen, this view of the leadership mindset is so important. I have always believed in the concept of leadership-in-place. Leadership is not a title, but a way of interacting and relating. This article about the elements of leadership mindset have helped me build on my own approach. I will continue to work on practicing “courageous authenticity”!

    • Mary-Ellen Hynd

      So glad to hear Silvia. Yes, the relationship aspect of leadership is key. And consciously stepping into “courageous authenticity” so powerful.

  3. Elizabeth Trew

    Your comment about WAIT is so helpful. I need to ask myself “Why am I talking?” and encourage my students to voice their opinions. Many are not familiar with expressing their own ideas and they need to be encouraged.

    • Mary-Ellen Hynd

      So glad to hear Elizabeth. It helps to post the words WAIT as a reminder. Virtual classroom is a wonderful place to apply.

  4. Karin Fritzlar

    This is so spot-on, Mary-Ellen. I’ve never had problems speaking up, but it was *how* I said things that needed to change. I like how you said that speaking up “is easier if it comes from a values-based, curious place.” I have learned to integrate curiosity into my response approach and it has not only led me to come across as less of a bulldozer, but also gets me and the other person to a true place of mutual understanding–along with everyone else in the room. This was a good reminder for me as we continue to navigate uncertain times where everyone’s stress level is a little higher than usual!

    • Mary-Ellen Hynd

      An excellent point that stress levels are a little higher as we continue to navigate uncertain times due to the pandemic. Well done integrating “curiosity” into your response approach. In my experience it lands and feels better for both receiver and sender. Wishing you continued success in your leadership journey Karin!

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